From: L. Michael Hall
2017 “Neurons” #14
March 27, 2017
The Matrix Model Series #2
THE HOLOGRAM OF THE
The whole of your inner world, the inner construct of your Matrix, where you play your unique inner game is contained in the State Matrix. It is all there, but you do have to have trained eyes and ears to see and hear it. Otherwise it is invisible to you and you will see nothing. Like a hologram, if you know how to “read” it, the state matrix not only grounds it in reality, but it also has within it the whole—the whole of the Matrix. For this reason, we begin with the state matrix.
As a holistic term the word “state” refers to the human system, that is, to the mind-body-emotion system. It refers to a person’s state of mind as well as one’s state of body and state of emotion. In everyday talk we separate these terms as if they refer to different things while in truth they refer to a singular system, the human system which is made up of mind, body, and emotion. Separating them occurs in language, not in reality. That’s because where there is mind there is body and emotion. Where there is emotion there is mind and body. Where there is body there is mind and emotion.
This gives you three ways into the human system. You can use the royal road of mind, body, and/or emotion to get into a person’s inner world. Actually this offers you a very wide-range of questions and areas for exploring if you want to understand a person on that person’s terms. Consider.
The State of Mind. What are you thinking about right now? What stream of thoughts are coming by your awareness? What are you attending to? And if you are selecting X to focus on, how are you representing that? If I were to peak into the theater of your mind and see what you are seeing, what’s playing on the screen? Are you representing it as close or far, bright or dim, big or small, etc.? what are the cinematic features that you are using as you process that information?
All of those questions are primary state questions. We can now step back one level and ask many, many more questions to find out what’s in the back of the mind. Given that you are thinking about X, what do you believe about that? What is the evidence that leads you to believe that? What is your understanding about that? What memories come to mind? What can you anticipate as you imagine taking that idea into your future? These are first-level meta-questions and only begin to explore this area. In the book, Neuro-Semantics, there is a list of 102 meta-questions at multiple levels.
The State of Body. What you might not immediately think of your head and brain as part of your body, they certainly are. They are made up of cells and nerve pathways and the neuro-chemistry that determines which of many areas of the brain are processing information at multiple levels. And from there, messages are sent to the rest of your body influencing all of the various nervous systems — autonomic nervous system, immune nervous system, sympathetic nervous system, etc. The state of your body is highly influenced by what you eat and drink, your sleep, your exercise, your health, etc. It is within your body— your neurology, your physiology— that you think and feel. A simple head cold can at times drastically affect the quality of your thinking and emoting.
Further, how you use your body will influence both thinking and emoting. Your gestures, your movements, your posture, how you hold yourself, and much more. All of these facets of your body can powerfully affect your human system.
The State of Emotion. Then there are your kinesthetic sensations, both internal and external, which give you the ability to “feel” (sense) things and when you add a cognition to them, you have an “emotion.” These energy impulses move you, create motion within you, motion to move out from where you are, hence e-motion (originally spelled, ex-motion). An emotion is an urge to move, to act, to do something. In the so-called “positive” emotions we move out to keep doing what we are doing, it is the “go” system. In the so-called “negative” emotions, we move out to stop— to “Stop, Look, Listen, and Change” because something is not working and/or because something is dangerous before us.
This is NLP 101. It is one of the really valuable aspects of the NLP Communication Model because with this we can now do what is popularly known as Emotional Intelligence. Long before that became the popular term for it, we called it State Management.
- State Awareness (emotional awareness) is the beginning place. What state are you in? How much of that state are you experiencing? After all, it is an energy field driven by your metabolism. How pure or mixed is that state?
- State or Emotional Monitoring. When does it go up or down? With whom? What triggers it? Is the trigger an external stimulus or an internal one? When is your state at its best? When is it at its worse. How do you influence it? How do you generate this state via your thoughts and beliefs?
- State or Emotional Regulation. Now that you know what it is and a little bit about how it works, what can you do to turn it up or turn it down at will? What factors gives you more management over the state? What beliefs, understandings, decisions, permissions, etc. empower you to regulate it to serve your well-being? What state interrupts (pattern interrupts) do you prefer to use so that you can manage your states better?
- State or Emotional Relating. With whom do you want to access a particular state and offer that to the person? How easily can you access care, compassion, love, patience, thoughtfulness, calmness, etc.? What are your best states for rapport building, connecting, communicating, relating, negotiating, etc.?